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This post features R&B star Trey Songz (pictured above) whose song ‘Infidelity’ inspired this article. Press play to take a look-see.
Infidelity is one of the songs on the fantastic (I kid you not) mixtape entitled ANTICIPATION that Trey Songz has released for fans and newcomers alike. Its purpose is to prepare them for his next album release READY due to be released August 2009. Naturally, since I’m so enchanted by it all (I am *such* a sucker for the super smooth vocal acrobatics and the heart wrenching harmonies. What do you want from me??), I’m more than happy to share it with you! Parental Discretion IS advised . CLICK ON THIS LINK or the banner on the right side of the screen to download your copy of ANTICIPATION. And my loves, you sure are welcome!
Relationships have many fine points. The love and companionship, the intimacy, and the inside jokes all become part of that force that attaches you to someone. There may be many bad times as well but often times the good seems to outweigh the bad. Maybe you’ve even experienced a whole lot of bad but the little bits of good just feel SO good that you wait it out and hope change will bring with it a more consistent stream of better times.
Have you ever been trapped in that waiting period? Would you even know if you were?
There are many clues that can alert you to the stagnancy that we may be too blind in love to see. Sometimes the fear of loneliness or the unknown is more than enough to keep you in. Take those fears, throw in a healthy dose of denial and you’ve got yourself a situation. Without even knowing it, you may begin to change while hoping for change. Sometimes those changes within yourself are not for the better, but for the worse – you begin to disappear in the name of your relationship.
Many of us do all types of things in the name of love. But if you’re losing your sense of self, is it really love that you’re fighting for?
As I bring the very special Life Coach series to a close, I wanted to bring to you some tools/suggestions Tim provided me with to use on my own. Talking to Tim was like putting glasses on. Things were so clear!
Of course, using them on my own has been a great help to me and Tim’s just an email away So without further ado, here are some things that really helped me and I highly recommend you try out for yourself. And who knows, maybe you might want to give him a call.
This particular post was a long time coming and its directly coincides with what I’ve been feeling as of late. I thought it would be a great to share with you one of my biggest struggles and in the event that you feel anything similar, I’d also love to share with you the wisdom that Tim has shared with me.
Somehow, I’ve cornered myself into feeling so overwhelmed that I began to stop – nearly everything. You’ve heard of the paralysis of analysis, have you not? You know, when you analyze SO much that you become afraid to move for whatever reason? Enter me, a twenty-something gal with lots of somethings on her mind. There are so many things that I wanted to take charge of and knowing that it’s a frame of mind, I decided to tackle it all. Except I didn’t know where to start. I could see the very big picture – think Google Earth of my dream world – however I couldn’t focus.
Then, the sad state of the What Ifs grew to what felt like astronomical heights. I couldn’t even bring myself to write. How frustrating – particularly because I have always found writing to be such a release!
Lucky for me, a caring Life Coach listened intently to my crisis and helped bring me back to Earth. And what’s the good of dishing advice if one can’t take a dose for herself? Turns out that no matter how many self improvement books you dedicate yourself to reading, the profound change that you seek in those books all start by taking one step at a time. Know that I am one of those who will nod “Yeah, yeah but what’s the REAL secret” to such age-old advice until I have my epiphany It DOES all start with one step and they are each quite significant; even when you think they are too small to matter.
Have you ever felt stuck at any point in your life?
You know that you want to make positive changes, be happier, get things done, discover the exciting possibilities available to you and yet something is holding you back.
Something like perpetual doubt and negative statements informing you of your inabilities and past failures in the form of a loop that won’t stop playing in your mind.
It’s a frustrating place to be in and the longing for better things in life gnaw at you. But where do you begin? Change is uncomfortable and so even if you are already uncomfortable with the way your life is, its familiar and therefore nesting in your familiar, uncomfortable unhappiness seems to be the easier thing to do.
Curious, though.. How do you get unstuck in life? Out of a rut and into the good stuff that others seem to be enjoying?
Life Coach Tim Brownson is full of useful insights and he shared them with me – and I couldn’t be any more grateful. So forwarding the good advice along, I hope these keys are as helpful to you as they have been to me.
. CLICK ON THIS LINK or the banner on the right side of the screen to download your copy of ANTICIPATION. And my loves, you sure are welcome!
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So without further ado, here are some things that really helped me and I highly recommend you try out for yourself. And who knows, maybe you might want to 
