Comments on: What to Say to a Grieving Friend http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/ Tips for Life, Love, You. Thu, 24 Jul 2008 16:15:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Pat R http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-592 Pat R Thu, 01 May 2008 03:22:18 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-592 JEMi - beautiful heartfelt words spoken for healing and to show how we can help each other. Out of your grief you still find time to give and share these words with us - thank you from the bottom of my heart. May you find comfort in the words of an <a href="http://plain-talk-ordinary-wisdom.blogspot.com/2008/04/irish-blessing.html" rel="nofollow">Irish Blessing</a> (see YouTube in my latest post). God bless you on this journey and believe that you are not alone. <em>Pat R's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/PlainTalkAndOrdinaryWisdom/~3/280483325/irish-blessing.html' rel="nofollow">Irish Blessing</a></em> JEMi - beautiful heartfelt words spoken for healing and to show how we can help each other. Out of your grief you still find time to give and share these words with us - thank you from the bottom of my heart.

May you find comfort in the words of an Irish Blessing (see YouTube in my latest post).

God bless you on this journey and believe that you are not alone.

Pat R’s last blog post..Irish Blessing

]]> By: Liz http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-207 Liz Tue, 26 Feb 2008 01:19:42 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-207 Great read, you hit it head on. What helped me the most was hearing my best friend say I'll be there in the morning and I'll stay till you kick me out. She shadowed me for a week, even slept in the bed with me, not saying much, but always there with a hug or a hand hold when she knew I needed it. For me it just having someone to sit with, breathe with, touch/hold onto, these were so important to me in those desperate first days. Thanks for sharing your insight, I feel as if I am following in your heels...Liz Great read, you hit it head on. What helped me the most was hearing my best friend say I’ll be there in the morning and I’ll stay till you kick me out. She shadowed me for a week, even slept in the bed with me, not saying much, but always there with a hug or a hand hold when she knew I needed it. For me it just having someone to sit with, breathe with, touch/hold onto, these were so important to me in those desperate first days. Thanks for sharing your insight, I feel as if I am following in your heels…Liz

]]> By: Rhisie http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-193 Rhisie Fri, 22 Feb 2008 23:37:28 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-193 Thank you for this post. Currently in this situation and I keep tripping over my words. This has truly made a difference on how I will approach this situation in the future. Write on... <em>Rhisie's last blog post..<a href='http://dancingwiththemonkey.blogspot.com/2008/02/28-and-loving-it.html' rel="nofollow">28 AND LOVING IT!</a></em> Thank you for this post. Currently in this situation and I keep tripping over my words. This has truly made a difference on how I will approach this situation in the future.

Write on…

Rhisie’s last blog post..28 AND LOVING IT!

]]> By: JEMi http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-191 JEMi Fri, 22 Feb 2008 19:43:26 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-191 @ Natural Woman: Nu uh :) It's never too late. One thing about losing someone, time tends to suspend or at least move along really slowly. No one is sitting with a calendar/watch anywhere judging you for coming around too late. Way after the funeral, the loss is still there and very painful. Go ahead and send the card. Show that you care. Not only will it be appreciated, you never know how your words affect someone that very day. It is an ongoing pain and friends are the blessings that help someone get through..one day at a time. @ Natural Woman: Nu uh :) It’s never too late. One thing about losing someone, time tends to suspend or at least move along really slowly. No one is sitting with a calendar/watch anywhere judging you for coming around too late. Way after the funeral, the loss is still there and very painful. Go ahead and send the card. Show that you care. Not only will it be appreciated, you never know how your words affect someone that very day. It is an ongoing pain and friends are the blessings that help someone get through..one day at a time.

]]> By: Natural Woman http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-189 Natural Woman Fri, 22 Feb 2008 19:32:59 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-189 Wow, I could have used the article 2 weeks ago. I still haven't contacted a friend of my mothers who lost her sister because I don't know what to say. I thought about sending a card, but I feel it's too late. I'm thinking I should just send it anyway, even if it is late. Thanks for this post. <em>Natural Woman's last blog post..<a href='http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/bad-penny/' rel="nofollow">Bad Penny</a></em> Wow, I could have used the article 2 weeks ago. I still haven’t contacted a friend of my mothers who lost her sister because I don’t know what to say. I thought about sending a card, but I feel it’s too late. I’m thinking I should just send it anyway, even if it is late. Thanks for this post.

Natural Woman’s last blog post..Bad Penny

]]> By: The Alleged Ringleader http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-186 The Alleged Ringleader Fri, 22 Feb 2008 01:40:30 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-186 What a wonderful post! I've been in this situation before. Words can not express what someone is feeling and you can only say "Do you NEED anything?" so many times... Obviously "Are you OK" is a question that gets asked over and over, what can you do ya know?? I usually just reach out, give a good hug and let them know I am there for them, to talk, cry, share, or take them out or away from everything that is reminding them of their present state, <em>The Alleged Ringleader's last blog post..<a href='http://thegloriouslifeof.blogspot.com/2008/02/sexual-exploits-of-one-of-todays.html' rel="nofollow">Sexual exploits of one of todays biggest rap/R&B stars</a></em> What a wonderful post!
I’ve been in this situation before. Words can not express what someone is feeling and you can only say “Do you NEED anything?” so many times…
Obviously “Are you OK” is a question that gets asked over and over, what can you do ya know??
I usually just reach out, give a good hug and let them know I am there for them, to talk, cry, share, or take them out or away from everything that is reminding them of their present state,

The Alleged Ringleader’s last blog post..Sexual exploits of one of todays biggest rap/R&B stars

]]> By: Barbara http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-185 Barbara Thu, 21 Feb 2008 08:30:20 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-185 JEMi, Such a beautiful and moving post. No truer words spoken. When I lost my Mother, I was totally heartbroken. My best friend would "drop by" saying she was in the neighborhood (she really wasn't), but she knew I was home alone. She would find some excuse to get me out of the house, sit and listen to me, cry with me, or just hold my hand. It was her compassion that got me through many heart wrenching evenings. Several years later, her sister died, and fortunately, I was there to return the kindness. You're right, sometimes words are not necessary. Often a silent prayer will do wonders. I commend you for sharing all you have been through. I know it can't be easy, but know you are helping many to not only understand what someone goes through as they grieve, but to know how to share in their grief by giving them comfort. My prayers are with you as you continue through your grieving process. God Bless You. <em>Barbara's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/bloggingwithoutablog/DWWZ/~3/238623462/' rel="nofollow">15 Time Saving Tips For Bloggers</a></em> JEMi,

Such a beautiful and moving post. No truer words spoken.

When I lost my Mother, I was totally heartbroken. My best friend would “drop by” saying she was in the neighborhood (she really wasn’t), but she knew I was home alone. She would find some excuse to get me out of the house, sit and listen to me, cry with me, or just hold my hand. It was her compassion that got me through many heart wrenching evenings. Several years later, her sister died, and fortunately, I was there to return the kindness.

You’re right, sometimes words are not necessary. Often a silent prayer will do wonders.

I commend you for sharing all you have been through. I know it can’t be easy, but know you are helping many to not only understand what someone goes through as they grieve, but to know how to share in their grief by giving them comfort.

My prayers are with you as you continue through your grieving process.

God Bless You.

Barbara’s last blog post..15 Time Saving Tips For Bloggers

]]> By: Treehousedweller http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-183 Treehousedweller Wed, 20 Feb 2008 06:29:25 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-183 I used to avoid people who were grieving - I just felt awkward, yet I knew my friends were hurt by my elusiveness. When a member of our community died recently I was determined to change my ways. I have tired to 'be there' in my way (i'm the one you can sit in comfortable silence with - I don't have words and I'm not organisied). Thank you for opening yourself up to write this post - it was courageous and ever so helpful for others. May you have friends around you that can support you in the way you need support throughout the years. I used to avoid people who were grieving - I just felt awkward, yet I knew my friends were hurt by my elusiveness. When a member of our community died recently I was determined to change my ways. I have tired to ‘be there’ in my way (i’m the one you can sit in comfortable silence with - I don’t have words and I’m not organisied). Thank you for opening yourself up to write this post - it was courageous and ever so helpful for others. May you have friends around you that can support you in the way you need support throughout the years.

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-182 Anonymous Wed, 20 Feb 2008 04:32:55 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-182 jem jem jem jemi hey its me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! nance srrrrry i've been a bad friend no excuses but if ever u need me i'm always here and even if u don't i'll still be here for u luvu always lean on me thats whats friends are for jem jem jem jemi
hey its me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
nance
srrrrry i’ve been a bad friend
no excuses
but if ever u need me i’m always here and even if u don’t i’ll still be here for u
luvu always
lean on me thats whats friends are for

]]> By: Carolyn B. http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-180 Carolyn B. Wed, 20 Feb 2008 03:51:24 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/what-to-say-to-a-grieving-friend/#comment-180 Another moving and generous post. My hope is that it's as helpful for you to express these thoughts as it is for your readers to absorb them. Hugs to you for your kindness to others while you're still re-balancing your own life. <em>Carolyn B.'s last blog post..<a href='http://www.dropsofblood.com/2008/02/16/let-an-old-reporter-talk-12-tips-to-interview-anyone/' rel="nofollow">Let an Old Reporter Talk: 12 Tips to Interview Anyone</a></em> Another moving and generous post. My hope is that it’s as helpful for you to express these thoughts as it is for your readers to absorb them.

Hugs to you for your kindness to others while you’re still re-balancing your own life.

Carolyn B.’s last blog post..Let an Old Reporter Talk: 12 Tips to Interview Anyone

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