Comments on: Uninhibited: 10 Ways to Set Yourself Free (Part 1) http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/ Tips for Life, Love, You. Thu, 24 Jul 2008 16:14:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: leah http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-262 leah Tue, 11 Mar 2008 13:54:33 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-262 hi, JEMi Thanks for a great post. I am now in the process of breaking out of my prison cell. For years i have been a prisoner of my past and I blame my childhood for who i am now. I am trying to break free from my insecurities. Now, I am 23 years old but I still have a lot of insecurities and I think I am useless, irresponsible and immature. I am very dependent of others. I cannot decide for my self. I want to break free from all of it. I want to be a better person. Your post really is very interesting. I can relate to it. Thank for the information. <em>leah's last blog post..<a href='http://asecretplacebyleah.blogspot.com/2008/03/imagine.html' rel="nofollow">Power of Imagination</a></em> hi, JEMi

Thanks for a great post. I am now in the process of breaking out of my prison cell. For years i have been a prisoner of my past and I blame my childhood for who i am now. I am trying to break free from my insecurities. Now, I am 23 years old but I still have a lot of insecurities and I think I am useless, irresponsible and immature. I am very dependent of others. I cannot decide for my self. I want to break free from all of it. I want to be a better person.

Your post really is very interesting. I can relate to it. Thank for the information.

leah’s last blog post..Power of Imagination

]]> By: Barbara http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-244 Barbara Wed, 05 Mar 2008 07:17:50 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-244 JEMi, You amaze me. For a young woman, you have the wisdom of someone who has lived so much longer and seen so much more. Your writings are filled with depth, caring and compassion. I'm not sure what you're studying in school, but psychology appears to be part of it. What you write "nails it". Your visitors land on a "gold mine" of information, when they find "In My Heels". You, my dear, have a bright future ahead of you. <em>Barbara's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/bloggingwithoutablog/DWWZ/~3/245959700/' rel="nofollow">No One Said It Would Be Easy</a></em> JEMi,

You amaze me. For a young woman, you have the wisdom of someone who has lived so much longer and seen so much more. Your writings are filled with depth, caring and compassion. I’m not sure what you’re studying in school, but psychology appears to be part of it. What you write “nails it”. Your visitors land on a “gold mine” of information, when they find “In My Heels”.

You, my dear, have a bright future ahead of you.

Barbara’s last blog post..No One Said It Would Be Easy

]]> By: JEMi http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-237 JEMi Tue, 04 Mar 2008 03:32:08 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-237 @ Catherine: I think self forgiveness is one of the easiest things to forget. You can actually become comfortable in your own discomfort - can you see of that makes sense? It is self destructive though and I think its great that you're going to pay attention to it in your own life. I hope it relieves some things for you :) @ Kevin: You know what - exactly. Yes - the person who is punishing himself is often not sitting around thinking "ok after this bout of misery, I should have satisfied all of my trangressions". You can get stuck there thinking its never enough. Your statement about allowing yourself to be human is not dumb at all. You're coming into your own and thats growth and success - def. not dumb. The starting point is tough - but you're there and you will be grateful that you change the course of your thought process to a more positive direction. You have everything to gain and I'm very happy for you. @ Catherine: I think self forgiveness is one of the easiest things to forget. You can actually become comfortable in your own discomfort - can you see of that makes sense?

It is self destructive though and I think its great that you’re going to pay attention to it in your own life. I hope it relieves some things for you :)

@ Kevin: You know what - exactly. Yes - the person who is punishing himself is often not sitting around thinking “ok after this bout of misery, I should have satisfied all of my trangressions”. You can get stuck there thinking its never enough. Your statement about allowing yourself to be human is not dumb at all. You’re coming into your own and thats growth and success - def. not dumb.

The starting point is tough - but you’re there and you will be grateful that you change the course of your thought process to a more positive direction. You have everything to gain and I’m very happy for you.

]]> By: Kevin http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-236 Kevin Mon, 03 Mar 2008 06:15:45 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-236 That is a great question, How much is enough to repay my "debt"? Well, honestly, I don't think I ever believed there would be an "enough" to that equation. I have a tendency to allow it to continue because I hold myself to a ridiculous standard that is impossible to live by. Literally, I had to come to the realization that a lot of my views from the past were impossible. It's been one of the biggest things to help me change. I had all these rules and bunch of crap that i held not only to myself, but to others, which is/was just plain stupid. This sounds dumb, but I don't really know how else to explain it, but I am just now, within the last two years allowing myself to "be human." Hell, I'd say in the last year, actually. One of the biggest things for me has been the ability to listen to people and analyze myself to think and see if what they are saying is truthful or not. I had to reflect on myself and build a bridge I could walk on in order to create change from within myself. That's the starting point, and it is very difficult to build that bridge to "freedom," but once it is going, it gets easier and easier. <em>Kevin's last blog post..<a href='http://kevinnumerick.com/blog/?p=118' rel="nofollow">Oh, Ah! Free Ad SPACE?</a></em> That is a great question, How much is enough to repay my “debt”? Well, honestly, I don’t think I ever believed there would be an “enough” to that equation. I have a tendency to allow it to continue because I hold myself to a ridiculous standard that is impossible to live by. Literally, I had to come to the realization that a lot of my views from the past were impossible. It’s been one of the biggest things to help me change. I had all these rules and bunch of crap that i held not only to myself, but to others, which is/was just plain stupid. This sounds dumb, but I don’t really know how else to explain it, but I am just now, within the last two years allowing myself to “be human.” Hell, I’d say in the last year, actually.

One of the biggest things for me has been the ability to listen to people and analyze myself to think and see if what they are saying is truthful or not. I had to reflect on myself and build a bridge I could walk on in order to create change from within myself. That’s the starting point, and it is very difficult to build that bridge to “freedom,” but once it is going, it gets easier and easier.

Kevin’s last blog post..Oh, Ah! Free Ad SPACE?

]]> By: CatherineL http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-234 CatherineL Sun, 02 Mar 2008 05:21:37 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-234 Hi JEMi - this is wonderful advice. Forgiveness is important, but I had never really thought about forgiving myself for things until I read this. And when I think about it - I am happy to forgive others for terrible things, but I beat myself up over the silliest little things years later. It's self destructive isn't it? And I'll definitely be taking your advice from now on. Thank you. <em>CatherineL's last blog post..<a href='http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/SuccessPasscode/~3/244004414/' rel="nofollow">Business: Do You Think You Know It All?</a></em> Hi JEMi - this is wonderful advice. Forgiveness is important, but I had never really thought about forgiving myself for things until I read this. And when I think about it - I am happy to forgive others for terrible things, but I beat myself up over the silliest little things years later. It’s self destructive isn’t it? And I’ll definitely be taking your advice from now on. Thank you.

CatherineL’s last blog post..Business: Do You Think You Know It All?

]]> By: JEMi http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-233 JEMi Sun, 02 Mar 2008 02:04:05 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-233 @ Kevin: aww you think I'm funny too? 2 points for you then :) Forgiving yourself can be tough - I recognize your statement "Well, I deserve it". But if you take a step back, you have to ask yourself - how much punishment would "suffice" for your self inflicted sentencing? The sooner you accept that you're human and the sooner you are more accepting of you.. the more room you give yourself to live. It's funny - people can be kind and forgiving even when we don't understand why. But until you can forgive yourself, they all sort of come as just words. I'm glad you are able to draw support from those words instead of them falling upon deaf ears. You are fortunate to have such great people in your life :) I appreciate you readership Kevin :) thanks for stopping by @ anonymous: I am really glad that this site is helping you somehow. Seems like you have your plate full from what I can gather and it will take some time - but if you make the decision to allow yourself to experience self love and personal freedom - InMyHeels.com as well as many other wonderful sites (check out my blogroll under Links I Love for sites that I think will def. provide great info) has plenty of goods that you can read for suggested insight. The most important thing right now is that you want your freedom and that you want your life back. It is yours for the taking and I am rooting for you. @ Kevin: aww you think I’m funny too? 2 points for you then :)
Forgiving yourself can be tough - I recognize your statement “Well, I deserve it”. But if you take a step back, you have to ask yourself - how much punishment would “suffice” for your self inflicted sentencing? The sooner you accept that you’re human and the sooner you are more accepting of you.. the more room you give yourself to live. It’s funny - people can be kind and forgiving even when we don’t understand why. But until you can forgive yourself, they all sort of come as just words. I’m glad you are able to draw support from those words instead of them falling upon deaf ears. You are fortunate to have such great people in your life :)

I appreciate you readership Kevin :) thanks for stopping by

@ anonymous: I am really glad that this site is helping you somehow. Seems like you have your plate full from what I can gather and it will take some time - but if you make the decision to allow yourself to experience self love and personal freedom - InMyHeels.com as well as many other wonderful sites (check out my blogroll under Links I Love for sites that I think will def. provide great info) has plenty of goods that you can read for suggested insight. The most important thing right now is that you want your freedom and that you want your life back. It is yours for the taking and I am rooting for you.

]]> By: anonymous http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-231 anonymous Sat, 01 Mar 2008 03:34:30 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-231 my biggest problem ever is i hate myself sometimes. i feel like a failure all the time you are right. i need freedom. i need change. i need help. thank god for inmyheels i read allmost everything here and its helping me jemi. i want freedom and i want my life back my biggest problem ever is i hate myself sometimes. i feel like a failure all the time you are right. i need freedom. i need change. i need help. thank god for inmyheels i read allmost everything here and its helping me jemi. i want freedom and i want my life back

]]> By: Kevin http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-228 Kevin Fri, 29 Feb 2008 19:01:20 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-228 I love how you keep a small sense of humor in your very serious topics. It keeps it light and helps keep possible barriers down, I think. Since you want to talk, I will talk. :) I am one of those people who will not forgive himself for certain mistakes in my past. They have, indeed, caused problems, just like you mentioned in your segment under "Forgiving yourself." I did come to the realization that I had not forgiven myself for this particular mistake and have been coming to terms with it. Am I there yet? No, not quite, but I am a lot further along than I was a year ago. I was even to the point for awhile that when bad things happened I said, "Well, I deserve it," which obviously doesn't help the self esteem. :) My first step to curing this issue was by talking to some friends, my girlfriend, actually, and even the person involved with the situation. All of them had forgiven me or convinced me that I must forgive myself. Their advice and support has been crucial to taking the steps to self awareness that I want to achieve and to have the courage to go for what I want in my life. The advice here in your article, like all of your other posts, is very truthful and right on target. I can tell you from my personal experiences that you speak truth. <em>Kevin's last blog post..<a href='http://kevinnumerick.com/blog/?p=100' rel="nofollow">My Brother The Human (part 1) - Weekly Short Story for You</a></em> I love how you keep a small sense of humor in your very serious topics. It keeps it light and helps keep possible barriers down, I think. Since you want to talk, I will talk. :) I am one of those people who will not forgive himself for certain mistakes in my past. They have, indeed, caused problems, just like you mentioned in your segment under “Forgiving yourself.” I did come to the realization that I had not forgiven myself for this particular mistake and have been coming to terms with it. Am I there yet? No, not quite, but I am a lot further along than I was a year ago.

I was even to the point for awhile that when bad things happened I said, “Well, I deserve it,” which obviously doesn’t help the self esteem. :) My first step to curing this issue was by talking to some friends, my girlfriend, actually, and even the person involved with the situation. All of them had forgiven me or convinced me that I must forgive myself. Their advice and support has been crucial to taking the steps to self awareness that I want to achieve and to have the courage to go for what I want in my life.

The advice here in your article, like all of your other posts, is very truthful and right on target. I can tell you from my personal experiences that you speak truth.

Kevin’s last blog post..My Brother The Human (part 1) - Weekly Short Story for You

]]> By: JEMi http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-227 JEMi Fri, 29 Feb 2008 14:44:34 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-227 @ #1Pound4Pound: Thanks for stopping by :) "Once we all figure out it is all internal and inside of our minds only then will we truly set out and find our ultimate happiness." I completely agree with you. It took me some time to figure out but like you said - success is different from person to person. For me to figure out what my goals/dreams for success are, I had to begin to get to know me. It's a fine process let me tell you I'm really glad you found your way to InMyHeels.com .. thank you so much for your readership and I look fwd to seeing you here again :) @ Natural: Heyy welcome back! It's *so* easy to get in your own way and its frustrating - feeling like you can't move fwd only to find out you're the only one holding you back. This is something I am working on implementing in my own life - I'm glad you were able to get something out of this post. And its great that you try to make adjustments based on what you have learned in the past - sometimes this is hard too. Like - you KNOW you wrong.. but you do it anyway :) I know all about that Thanks for coming back :) It's a pleasure having you as a reader/active commenter Natural @ #1Pound4Pound: Thanks for stopping by :) “Once we all figure out it is all internal and inside of our minds only then will we truly set out and find our ultimate happiness.” I completely agree with you. It took me some time to figure out but like you said - success is different from person to person. For me to figure out what my goals/dreams for success are, I had to begin to get to know me. It’s a fine process let me tell you

I’m really glad you found your way to InMyHeels.com .. thank you so much for your readership and I look fwd to seeing you here again :)

@ Natural: Heyy welcome back! It’s *so* easy to get in your own way and its frustrating - feeling like you can’t move fwd only to find out you’re the only one holding you back. This is something I am working on implementing in my own life - I’m glad you were able to get something out of this post.

And its great that you try to make adjustments based on what you have learned in the past - sometimes this is hard too. Like - you KNOW you wrong.. but you do it anyway :) I know all about that

Thanks for coming back :) It’s a pleasure having you as a reader/active commenter Natural

]]> By: Natural Woman http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-226 Natural Woman Fri, 29 Feb 2008 02:29:44 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/uninhibited-10-ways-to-set-yourself-free-part-1/#comment-226 Okay, this was an amazing read!!! I'm just going to put my laptop down now and bow before your blog. lol. I'm sure I have gotten in my own way, but I'm not one to sit in the pity corner and wallow in whatever. Once I get over whatever, I make adjustments and try not to repeat past behavior. Breaking free? Knowing I cannot change the past. I can only worry about or change the future. Forgive myself and move on. <em>Natural Woman's last blog post..<a href='http://valeriemorrison.net/blog/five-little-bits-meme/' rel="nofollow">Five Little Bits Meme</a></em> Okay, this was an amazing read!!! I’m just going to put my laptop down now and bow before your blog. lol.

I’m sure I have gotten in my own way, but I’m not one to sit in the pity corner and wallow in whatever. Once I get over whatever, I make adjustments and try not to repeat past behavior.

Breaking free? Knowing I cannot change the past. I can only worry about or change the future. Forgive myself and move on.

Natural Woman’s last blog post..Five Little Bits Meme

]]>