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InMyHeels.com has been instrumental in my personal growth. With every post I write, every article I read, every book I devour with both myself and my readers in mind, my fire has been stoked without limits. This is why I’m ecstatic to write this piece. Every single key I share here is something I’ve utilized personally - some with this very blog - and have witnessed it’s powers in my personal life. And to think this is only the very beginning! It’s important to me that I share the best with you because it is MY big dream to help others be their best selves all the time.
I don’t fear dreaming big. Not in the very least. In fact, everytime I sense resistance with the HOW of what I’m dreaming about, I shake it off. I’d think “Not during the dreaming part”.
The way I see it - it’s MY imagination. I can think up whatever my heart desires. The other exciting part is realizing - each and every time - that if I REALLY wanted to, I can see most of these dreams come to pass. Taking a grasp of childlike freedom when giving yourself a moment to breathe and conjure up the mental images of your hearts desire is a liberating and thrilling exercise. Life tends to pelt us with the disappointments that disguise the faces of opportunities available to you every day. In attempting to play it ’safe’, many of us ditch even the ability to dream big. That is until one fact clicks inside you. No one is going to hand over your dream life and living as though you’ve been sentenced into the mundane is cruel and unusual punishment that creates stress, sadness, and dissatisfaction in our lives.
At least while reading this post, loosen up the chains a little and picture your passions. And hey, if you’re already a big dreamer, you’re in good company!
So holding your free pass into dreaming big, let’s now look at the HOW. What do we do about those?
Continue reading ‘Big Dreams: 10 Critical Keys to Your Success - Part 1′
How long have you been this uncomfortable?
With certain aspects of your life that is.
Are you constantly poring over someone else’s get things done system - only to find the only thing you’re doing is frustrating yourself yet again? It doesn’t even make any sense. It works for some people - why not you?
How about your job? Are you supposed to like it because you spent a good lot of your time for the past __ years learning for a shot at your dream only to find that it just isn’t flowing as well as you pictured?
Is it you?
Quite frankly yes.
It’s you…not being you. And that can be a problem.
For those on a serious quest for the inspired career move, having issues with learning, not understanding the relationship advice you’re getting (and therefore you MUST be an ogre) ignoring your natural tendencies will leave you feeling awkward. You can technically force yourself to operate under someone else system but that’s the underlying discomfort you feel…
..and it’s probably feeding that growing monster of resentment that you’re carrying on your bare back.
You’d be amazed at what knowing and respecting your own personal style of operation can do for you. You’d be super productive and a lot happier with your circumstances.
And to think that people go on, for YEARS, oblivious to this fact and suffering a faceless unhappiness because of it! Looks like there’s more to that “Be Yourself” thing huh.
This is the part where I tell you that you can shell out fifty bucks or so over here at Kolbe.com to find out about yourself for your best life.
OR
You can thank your bloggy stars that JEMi knows JUST how you feel and is about to discuss the general guideline that test shows you.
*smile*
Continue reading ‘What the Super Successful You Knows’
There can be a lot of internal conflict and grief about what you SHOULD be doing and what you actually are doing. Where you SHOULD be in life, and where you are. If you are someone who wants to have it all but barely has some, you might secretly harbor thoughts that “because you are the way you are”, things can’t happen for you the way they fall cinematically into place for - say - Madonna (which, by the way, is only your perception from the outside looking in).
But consider this.
Have you ever considered the possibility that a good lot of the way you behave, the things you can or cannot do, your success, the amount of people who know who you are, your level of happiness all depended on your sense of identity?
Think of it like this. You think of yourself as an upstanding citizen. To maintain that identity, you pay your taxes (…right?), you work or go to school or are “in between” instead of announcing “I am decidedly doing nothing with myself for the rest of my life”, you don’t walk around punching people in the face for sport, and you maintain some semblance of social decency. Suppose you didn’t think of yourself as an upstanding citizen but rather a common criminal at heart. You throw your hands up because at least you’re real, and you proclaim “This is ME. This is who I am. That’s just the way it is.” And with that, your standards of living are somewhat different. In line with the criminal mindset, stealing is just a way of life, you don’t worry about upsetting Uncle Sam, you live with society’s perception of you without losing any sleep about how to change it anymore, and yes - you’ll punch a face or two because you’re bad like that.
Continue reading ‘Who Are You Really: The Definition and Redifinition of You’
Perhaps you’re at a point in your life where things aren’t swell but aren’t horrible either. A middle plane, with your daily comings and goings steady like a mill and well, not so exciting.The exciting stuff is coming. You know - when you make that deal, when you finish school, when you lose 50 lbs…when you find the right man..
And so you wait.
And wait.
You’ll be happy one day - it just has to happen.
So you wait some more.
And what you aren’t realizing is while you’re waiting for that good thing to happen so that you can start your fabulous new life, the life you have is passing by. Days you can’t reclaim and that were loaded with the potential to make you feel good about being alive.
Maybe you’ll be super lucky and that day comes quickly for you. So you’d be exempt of wasting your days, skipping in glee.
Those odds are there for the taking so yeah - maybe you’ll be lucky - so you’ll wait.
Would you bet your life on those odds?
Continue reading ‘Waiting to Live’
What People Do Is a Reflection of THEM. Not You.
Life has a nice twist to it when you grab that concept and make it your own. Sometimes you run into someone who clearly doesn’t like you because you breathe funny. Maybe your curl bends the wrong way - who knows? The fact of the matter is someone’s disapproval can wreak havoc on your self esteem simply because you can’t understand what the problem is. (Wait- what?? You…don’t LIKE me?!?… How is this possible??) Truly bizarre don’t you think? ;)
The animosity you may experience from a random stranger or even someone you know is not a reflection of you. If someone feels the need to insult you or downplay your value, they are projecting an inherent thought process in their own minds upon you based on their own beliefs. As I will get into in the next section Know Your Values- Know Yourself, you need to be able to define your own beliefs and your own thought process. Alot of the humiliation or hurt that can come from someone’s words can actually come from deep down, you agreeing with them somehow. Ouch.
Continue reading ‘Uninhibited: 10 Ways to Set Yourself Free (Part 2)’
