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04SepBeyond Recognition: Losing Yourself In a Relationship

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Relationships have many fine points. The love and companionship, the intimacy, and the inside jokes all become part of that force that attaches you to someone. There may be many bad times as well but often times the good seems to outweigh the bad. Maybe you’ve even experienced a whole lot of bad but the little bits of good just feel SO good that you wait it out and hope change will bring with it a more consistent stream of better times.

Have you ever been trapped in that waiting period? Would you even know if you were?

There are many clues that can alert you to the stagnancy that we may be too blind in love to see. Sometimes the fear of loneliness or the unknown is more than enough to keep you in. Take those fears, throw in a healthy dose of denial and you’ve got yourself a situation. Without even knowing it, you may begin to change while hoping for change. Sometimes those changes within yourself are not for the better, but for the worse - you begin to disappear in the name of your relationship.

Many of us do all types of things in the name of love. But if you’re losing your sense of self, is it really love that you’re fighting for?

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01JunYour Q&A: Getting to Know Yourself

 

 

The questions that you ask yourself and others dictate the kind of life you lead.  When you start to ask different questions, you can start living the life you want to live. 

- Tim Brownson

 

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What is it that you have swimming around in your mind, preoccupying the space up there and either

a) filling you with joy, strong motivation, and a healthy appetite for life

or

b)  pain striking anxiety, fear, and self doubt? 

 

What type of questions do you ask yourself?

Are you mostly likely to ask yourself “What can I do to make this great idea happen?!” or “What makes me think that I can do something like that?  Are you most likely to question the timing of a new project or the actual existance of the necessary talent?

So many questions, so valuable your time in this life you live. 

Do you actually get that? 

This LIFE that YOU live!  <– The exclamation point is there because as a mere phrase, “This life that you live” is merely cliche.  But when you think about the fact that your deep happiness or everpresent self dissatisfaction can be tipped either way, you come to realize with excitement (or sheer horror) that its really up to you to do something about it to get it where you’d like it to be!

So the question then is - Where do you start?

The author that I quoted in the beginning of this post is Tim Brownson, the life coach behind the excellent blog that is ADaringAdventure.com and I’ve had the delightful pleasure of reading his book Don’t Ask Stupid Questions:  The Are No Stupid Questions which deeply inspired me to whip up this piece for you.  I’ll be using some of the questions he provides in his book as headlines for some important points you need to hit in your self discovery.  That being said, I highly recommend this book as quality reading for simple tips and questions that help you find EXACTLY what you’re looking for.  You.

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