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23JunLife Coach: What Can One Do for You?

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I am the fortunate recipient of 6 free sessions with life coach Tim Brownson, author of the book Don’t Ask Stupid Questions: There Are No Stupid Questions which was covered here. Prior to reading Tim’s book and speaking to him, I didn’t know what a life coach did exactly. My point of reference was an episode of the scandalous hit TV Series Nip/Tuck where Ava, the life coach, wrecked more havoc than help create peace of mind!

To kick off the exciting new InMyHeels Series - Life Coach, I want to share with you discoveries found during my first experience with a real life coach. Perhaps it will lend you more insight into what it is they do and how they can help you.

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09JunHow to Be the Most Likable You

An anonymous reader of InMyHeels.com requested this piece so true to the nature of this blog where the walk InYourHeels counts, I am taking a stab at it and would love your feedback. What makes you likable?

It is no secret that first impressions are important. One gander your way and often times someone makes general assumptions based upon your appearance, gait, speech - you name it. Meeting new people already has its set of challenges. Now to add another complication, suppose you get the impression that the person/people you are meeting don’t like you. Maybe they don’t seem very receptive or impressed by your presence. Want to twist the knife? Suppose they are meeting someone else for the first time as well and are simply delighted with her company - and not shy about expressing it.

That hurts.

Before I continue, please bear in mind a fact that you undoubtedly know however serves as little consolation when it feels like more than one person isn’t moved by your company. Not everyone will like your fabulous self. I know - it’s a tough pill to swallow when you’re as wonderful as you are but let’s not forget this bit of wisdom. Their negativity is not about you - it’s about them and THEIR story. How do you know that you’re not the spitting image of Charlene from the 3rd grade that made that person’s life a living hell?

You don’t. And that’s just one very real example of millions that explain the distaste. This is why its imperative to work on yourself and being the best person you can be in your own skin. With that comes the confidence that this is you. If someone can’t accept you as is, well, tough noogies!

Now - the most likable you is not very far off. I understand that not everyone is Ms. Friendly. But some conscious effort on your part can make all the difference. And if that’s what you’re looking for, here are some tips that work.

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01JunYour Q&A: Getting to Know Yourself

 

 

The questions that you ask yourself and others dictate the kind of life you lead.  When you start to ask different questions, you can start living the life you want to live. 

- Tim Brownson

 

It’s another Free InMyHeels Giveaway!!!  Head to the bottom of this post to see how you can win a free copy of the book Don’t Ask Stupid Questions?:  There Are No Stupid Questions!!!

What is it that you have swimming around in your mind, preoccupying the space up there and either

a) filling you with joy, strong motivation, and a healthy appetite for life

or

b)  pain striking anxiety, fear, and self doubt? 

 

What type of questions do you ask yourself?

Are you mostly likely to ask yourself “What can I do to make this great idea happen?!” or “What makes me think that I can do something like that?  Are you most likely to question the timing of a new project or the actual existance of the necessary talent?

So many questions, so valuable your time in this life you live. 

Do you actually get that? 

This LIFE that YOU live!  <– The exclamation point is there because as a mere phrase, “This life that you live” is merely cliche.  But when you think about the fact that your deep happiness or everpresent self dissatisfaction can be tipped either way, you come to realize with excitement (or sheer horror) that its really up to you to do something about it to get it where you’d like it to be!

So the question then is - Where do you start?

The author that I quoted in the beginning of this post is Tim Brownson, the life coach behind the excellent blog that is ADaringAdventure.com and I’ve had the delightful pleasure of reading his book Don’t Ask Stupid Questions:  The Are No Stupid Questions which deeply inspired me to whip up this piece for you.  I’ll be using some of the questions he provides in his book as headlines for some important points you need to hit in your self discovery.  That being said, I highly recommend this book as quality reading for simple tips and questions that help you find EXACTLY what you’re looking for.  You.

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26May7 Guaranteed Ways to Drastically Improve Your Life

It’s Memorial Day and I can’t help but bask in memories of my late hubby. Since losing my soldier, I’ve been faced with the rock bottom part of life. You know - the part you have no voluntary interest in seeing. Ever. It’s a year and a half later and to my pleasant surprise, I have experienced not only growth but actually happiness. If you told me that a year ago, I would grant you a blank stare and perhaps a look of pity at your eager hopefulness.

I am living proof to each and every one of these tips as I have experienced the life altering effects of each and every one of them. Perhaps you are in a situation that has brought YOU much sadness, anxiety, depression. Or maybe you’re stuck in the doldrums of life - not really grasping whats so great about it. I believe in living your best life now. So come on - I have to share the goods with you!

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24MarWho Are You Really: The Definition and Redifinition of You

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There can be a lot of internal conflict and grief about what you SHOULD be doing and what you actually are doing.  Where you SHOULD be in life, and where you are.  If you are someone who wants to have it all but barely has some, you might secretly harbor thoughts that “because you are the way you are”, things can’t happen for you the way they fall cinematically into place for - say - Madonna (which, by the way, is only your perception from the outside looking in).

But consider this. 

Have you ever considered the possibility that a good lot of the way you behave, the things you can or cannot do, your success, the amount of people who know who you are, your level of happiness all depended on your sense of identity? 

Think of it like this.  You think of yourself as an upstanding citizen.  To maintain that identity, you pay your taxes (…right?), you work or go to school or are “in between” instead of announcing “I am decidedly doing nothing with myself for the rest of my life”, you don’t walk around punching people in the face for sport, and you maintain some semblance of social decency.  Suppose you didn’t think of yourself as an upstanding citizen but rather a common criminal at heart.  You throw your hands up because at least you’re real, and you proclaim “This is ME.  This is who I am.  That’s just the way it is.”  And with that, your standards of living are somewhat different.  In line with the criminal mindset, stealing is just a way of life, you don’t worry about upsetting Uncle Sam, you live with society’s perception of you without losing any sleep about how to change it anymore, and yes - you’ll punch a face or two because you’re bad like that.

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