There can be a lot of internal conflict and grief about what you SHOULD be doing and what you actually are doing. Where you SHOULD be in life, and where you are. If you are someone who wants to have it all but barely has some, you might secretly harbor thoughts that “because you are the way you are”, things can’t happen for you the way they fall cinematically into place for - say - Madonna (which, by the way, is only your perception from the outside looking in).
But consider this.
Have you ever considered the possibility that a good lot of the way you behave, the things you can or cannot do, your success, the amount of people who know who you are, your level of happiness all depended on your sense of identity?
Think of it like this. You think of yourself as an upstanding citizen. To maintain that identity, you pay your taxes (…right?), you work or go to school or are “in between” instead of announcing “I am decidedly doing nothing with myself for the rest of my life”, you don’t walk around punching people in the face for sport, and you maintain some semblance of social decency. Suppose you didn’t think of yourself as an upstanding citizen but rather a common criminal at heart. You throw your hands up because at least you’re real, and you proclaim “This is ME. This is who I am. That’s just the way it is.” And with that, your standards of living are somewhat different. In line with the criminal mindset, stealing is just a way of life, you don’t worry about upsetting Uncle Sam, you live with society’s perception of you without losing any sleep about how to change it anymore, and yes - you’ll punch a face or two because you’re bad like that.
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