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and lol to “girl blog”. Why yes, there is some hot pink splayed upon these pages. It’s ok to lurk ’round these parts though. The Heels don’t bite Thanks for your comment!

@ Bruce: Hey! I agree with your comment whole heartedly. A whole lot of this come with knowing yourself.. some people need a whole lotta time (read- years) to meet and learn more about themselves.. A whole lot of us in fact. Thats why I stress topics like Me Time and personal honesty here on the site. I was stunned when I started to discover my real likes and dislikes.. not the ones swayed by my present company or relationship.

and lol yes, when you get tired of faking it - you tend ot be motivated to try something. new. Unfortunately, if you’re too tired to fake it, you’re probably quite frustrated. Some then fast from the opposite sex - at least emotionally or they look for something deeper. When you tap into the springs of real connections.. its so refreshing!

Thanks for stopping by Bruce Good to see you here

@ Kevin: Thank you for the reassurance that I so greatly needed. You’re such a good blogging buddy. Book? What book? I told you about that?!?!

Thank you for your applause. Coming from a talent writer? Now that’s kudos!

Another great post, a home run in the world of difficult topics that people typically don’t want to face. For that, I applaud you. Again.

Great article! I think being open and honest about who you are gets easier with age. Probably for a couple reasons - one, you have a much better idea about who YOU are; and two, well - you’re just too tired to fake it anymore. (lol)

Seriously though, it is very true - before you can love someone else fully, you first have to love and accept yourself.

Later,

Bruce

For years I dated different girls, enjoyed the club & bar scene, and went through relationships. I finally got sick of it and craved a deeper connection.

It took until my early 30s to meet my soulmate. We met at a Zen workshop, so we were very “vulnerable” in that we were sincere and open with each other in that environment. 4 years later we’re now planning to get married in October.

I love that you point out relationship work is a continuing process. It’s hard work, and gets easier, but it always requires effort and attention to keep it healthy.

Blessings

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@ Cath: Well hello Yeah it’s difficult to admit when you’re wrong. (Trust me, I know!) You know what they say about the truth setting you free though. When you know what the problem is, that’s when you can actually do something about it. btw, just so you know, I appreciate your readership

@ Natural: I love when you stop by - you always have such a positive vibe. Both you and Cath alike Thank you for sharing with your friends! I am both humbled and appreciative with your kind feedback. (( hugs ))

@ Barbara: I agree with that saying whole heartedly - although to have love and lost is excruciatingly painful! But yes, it is a blessing to find love in this lifetime so I can’t complain. Sounds like you have a great man - I’m very happy to hear it. No games, no walls, no expectations? Now that’s beautiful. I sure do hope you post a good lot of lovey doveyness on your blog on that 23rd anniversary (WOW!!! What a blessing!!!!) I love that stuff

You did it again with this beautiful post. As I was reading it, it reminded me of the saying, “it’s better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all”.

I completely agree with “not having expectations” ..they’ll get you every time. People are not mind readers and to expect someone to know what you want is sheer madness.

I am fortunate to be married to a dear man who’s my best friend….. When we met, we were both being ourselves…no games, no walls, no expectations. It was “what you see, is what you get”. Starting off on the right foot created a solid foundation that has only grown stronger over the years..this July will be 23.

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