Comments on: Life Coach: From a Life Coach’s Toolbox

By: candy

candy — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 19:52:09 +0000

I like this idea of reframing and have tried it (with some degree of success…) myself…… but my question is, is there some way to suggest reframing to someone without seeming overly critical or offensive? Think this is an activity that my sibling can definitely engage in, as she often gets quite negative without meaning to.

By: Nathalie Lussier

Nathalie Lussier — Mon, 18 Aug 2008 00:01:31 +0000

I love reframing. I’ve been using this type of technique for about 4 years now. Since then, things have really changed in my life. Thank you for sharing all of these insights and coaching for the rest of us to benefit from. It is truly generous of you.

Nathalie Lussiers last blog post..Money Talks: How Do You Talk Back?

By: Steve Errey

Steve Errey — Sun, 17 Aug 2008 19:25:38 +0000

Some real gems here Jemi.

Acknowledging what’s happening in your head and realising that you have a choice about what it means is such a powerful strategy and puts you squarely in the drivers seat. Even on those days where you feel crappy, where you don’t want to do much of anything become okay, because you can decide to let that ride knowing that you’ll come out the other side.

That’s where your values come in useful too. Even when you do feel terrible or terrible things happen to you, your values are always there like a comfort blanket, just waiting for you to tap into them. I talk about values as the things that are right at your very core, the things you have ten thousand feet down inside you.

They’re the foundations, cornerstones and building blocks for who you are, and are the things in yourself, others and the world that are most important to you. That’s why you’ve operated with them intuitively before, because subconsciously you knew what the were all along.

Know what they are, trust them and honour them and you can’t go wrong. That’s real inner confidence, and it’s what you seem to have nailed.

Keep doing what you’re doing.

By: Ami at Writing: My Life

Ami at Writing: My Life — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 16:44:55 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing the lessons you learned. I’ve been trying to be more present and “observe” my thoughts and reactions a bit more, and this post reminded me that it’s a process. I won’t always do it quickly or easily and sometimes I won’t do it at all. But the more tools I have, the easier it will be to build the life (and reactions to that life) that I want to have.

Ami at Writing: My Lifes last blog post..OLS Week 11 & The Pseudo-Foodie Experiments Pt. 2

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Thu, 14 Aug 2008 05:55:09 +0000

Hi JEMI,

It’s so good to see you writing again. I’ve missed you.

I totally agree that we can always find something good out of something bad that happens. Ironically the more we practice this technique, the less the bad things affect us. I use this practice a lot in our business and it’s made me a better business woman.

Barbara Swaffords last blog post..Your Audience - Hitting The Bulls Eye

By: Laurie

Laurie — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 15:21:48 +0000

I don’t view reframing as a mind game. I see it more as looking for other perspectives to your situation. Where I get hung up is feeling the emotion so much I have a difficult time seeing the other perspectives. I get overwhelmed with the intensity of it all. I sometimes feel paralyzed for a day or 10.

Tim does seem to be a great, giving person. And with his wit? A lot of fun to read.

I enjoyed your journey with this. Thanks for sharing.

By: Jayme

Jayme — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 03:21:38 +0000

“….acceptance is paramount to your peace of mind.”

I agree. It’s better to focus on the things we do control like how we react to different situations that happen to us. I always try to remember that people or situations can bring us down only if we allow them to.

Thanks for sharing this great post.

Jaymes last blog post..RSS Feeds for the Soul

By: Sara at On Simplicity

Sara at On Simplicity — Wed, 13 Aug 2008 02:03:15 +0000

I have to say, I’m more interesting in trying reframing after hearing that it worked for you. Like you say, it may be a mind game, but if helps you, why not play?

I agree with Vered–this series has been really eye-opening. Thanks for the insight!

Sara at On Simplicitys last blog post..Teaching Tweens Simplicity

By: Vered

Vered — Tue, 12 Aug 2008 22:44:58 +0000

I enjoyed reading this series. I’m sorry to see it end! Tim has taught me a lot about reframing - a term that I wasn’t familiar with before, and now I try to implement this technique almost every day.

Vereds last blog post..I Am Watching You