Comments on: How to Work Amongst Difficult People http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/ Tips for Life, Love, You. Fri, 05 Sep 2008 23:18:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Dr. Nicole Sundene http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-752 Dr. Nicole Sundene Sun, 25 May 2008 18:21:14 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-752 Love your site! Just subscribed. Look forward to more of this... Dr. Nicole Sundenes last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/KitchenTableMedicine/~3/296851835/" rel="nofollow">Are you suffering from a TERMINAL case of “The I Can’ts”?</a> Love your site! Just subscribed. Look forward to more of this…

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]]> By: Tom Volkar / Delightful Work http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-751 Tom Volkar / Delightful Work Sat, 24 May 2008 13:05:38 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-751 I used to deal with a credit thief who was my direct report. I was self-employed in sales but it didn't matter because he blatantly stole anything that would make him look better to the VP Sales. He didn't care who he stole from either; he was a very equal opportunity thief. Your tips would have worked well but you weren't around to tell me about them 20 years ago. So I pulled him aside and blasted him with what I saw as the truth. He blasted me right back and it lead to some uncomfortable months. Now I'm much older and wiser and subscribe to what Jonathan said. When we ask ourselves before acting, "how will that serve me?" we can often hold back long enough to respond not react. Nice writing. Tom Volkar / Delightful Works last blog post..<a href="http://www.delightfulwork.com/2008/05/19/what-makes-you-exceptional/" rel="nofollow">What Makes You Exceptional?</a> I used to deal with a credit thief who was my direct report. I was self-employed in sales but it didn’t matter because he blatantly stole anything that would make him look better to the VP Sales. He didn’t care who he stole from either; he was a very equal opportunity thief.

Your tips would have worked well but you weren’t around to tell me about them 20 years ago. So I pulled him aside and blasted him with what I saw as the truth. He blasted me right back and it lead to some uncomfortable months.

Now I’m much older and wiser and subscribe to what Jonathan said. When we ask ourselves before acting, “how will that serve me?” we can often hold back long enough to respond not react. Nice writing.

Tom Volkar / Delightful Works last blog post..What Makes You Exceptional?

]]> By: Tim Brownson http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-748 Tim Brownson Fri, 23 May 2008 13:25:27 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-748 If I could give one piece of advice to anybody working in an office it would be learn rapid rapport building. If you can build rapport quickly and effectively so many of those problems evaporate or never arise in the first place. You don't get gossiped about, you get on with the people that most other people don't and you are less likely to have your work stolen. I have to take issue with something Barbara said though. It would be nice to think that idea thieves always get caught out by senior management. The fact is, they don't, and sometimes they ARE senior management. It's not a fair world I'm afraid and some people do BS their way to the top. That's not the issue, the issue is whether you or carry on living by your own code of ethics rather than being bitter, storing up grudges and starting to hoard good ideas for fear that somebody else may get the credit. Good post as always ;-) Tim Brownsons last blog post..<a href="http://www.adaringadventure.com/blog/wordpress/life-coaching/the-people-who-are-not-making-you-fat-%E2%80%A6-and-the-one-who-is/" rel="nofollow">The People Who Are NOT Making You Fat … And The One Who Is</a> If I could give one piece of advice to anybody working in an office it would be learn rapid rapport building.

If you can build rapport quickly and effectively so many of those problems evaporate or never arise in the first place. You don’t get gossiped about, you get on with the people that most other people don’t and you are less likely to have your work stolen.

I have to take issue with something Barbara said though. It would be nice to think that idea thieves always get caught out by senior management. The fact is, they don’t, and sometimes they ARE senior management. It’s not a fair world I’m afraid and some people do BS their way to the top. That’s not the issue, the issue is whether you or carry on living by your own code of ethics rather than being bitter, storing up grudges and starting to hoard good ideas for fear that somebody else may get the credit.

Good post as always ;-)
Tim Brownsons last blog post..The People Who Are NOT Making You Fat … And The One Who Is

]]> By: Anonymous http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-747 Anonymous Fri, 23 May 2008 12:44:33 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-747 YES! Great post. I love what I do for work. I feel great when I go home for the day because in my field I contribute to cleaning up the environment and making the world better for other, but the politics and crap like you've described above definitely gets me down at times. I'd like to think there is the perfect job out there that doesn't do this to you, but I'm not so sure. Crossing my fingers. YES! Great post. I love what I do for work. I feel great when I go home for the day because in my field I contribute to cleaning up the environment and making the world better for other, but the politics and crap like you’ve described above definitely gets me down at times. I’d like to think there is the perfect job out there that doesn’t do this to you, but I’m not so sure. Crossing my fingers.

]]> By: Jessica http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-746 Jessica Fri, 23 May 2008 01:55:17 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-746 Ugh I hate that issue bigtime in my office. I wish I could know what I was getting in to when interviewing for jobs. I can usually get a good feel but it's tough sometimes. Personally, my biggest issue recently is people not "managing up." Seriously, come on. Man up and take some responsibility. Jessicas last blog post..<a href="http://everydayadventuresinthecity.blogspot.com/2008/05/movies-action-chicago.html" rel="nofollow">Movies! Action! Chicago!</a> Ugh I hate that issue bigtime in my office. I wish I could know what I was getting in to when interviewing for jobs. I can usually get a good feel but it’s tough sometimes. Personally, my biggest issue recently is people not “managing up.” Seriously, come on. Man up and take some responsibility.

Jessicas last blog post..Movies! Action! Chicago!

]]> By: Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-745 Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Map Fri, 23 May 2008 01:49:58 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-745 JEMi, when I was reading your post, I was just thinking how glad I was that I was no longer working in an office. Your post reminded me how toxic the office environment can be! Great post for your vivid descriptions of the various characters!! Stumbled! Evelyn Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Maps last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/attractionmindmap/~3/295868912/" rel="nofollow">7 Steps To Self Discovery</a> JEMi, when I was reading your post, I was just thinking how glad I was that I was no longer working in an office. Your post reminded me how toxic the office environment can be!

Great post for your vivid descriptions of the various characters!! Stumbled!

Evelyn

Evelyn Lim | Attraction Mind Maps last blog post..7 Steps To Self Discovery

]]> By: Laurie http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-742 Laurie Fri, 23 May 2008 00:15:51 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-742 The ones that were the thorns in my side was my coworker and my boss. Both are insecure people and I believe I was a threat to the coworker who is a bulldozer type. I think he pushed me down to build himslef up. SO the boss was convinced I wasn't a match for the job even though those I served in this position thought I was the best thing since buttered bread. I am good at my job. But I am leaving at the end of June and starting my own business. I am working in the mine field of hidden agendas and incompetance. It's sad. I'll be better off when the new business gets off the ground. :O) The ones that were the thorns in my side was my coworker and my boss. Both are insecure people and I believe I was a threat to the coworker who is a bulldozer type. I think he pushed me down to build himslef up. SO the boss was convinced I wasn’t a match for the job even though those I served in this position thought I was the best thing since buttered bread. I am good at my job. But I am leaving at the end of June and starting my own business. I am working in the mine field of hidden agendas and incompetance. It’s sad. I’ll be better off when the new business gets off the ground.

:O)

]]> By: Jonathan Mead http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-741 Jonathan Mead Thu, 22 May 2008 14:50:45 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-741 I think one of the hardest parts of working with others is learning not to react emotionally. We need to stop and think, what do I want to accomplish with this person? Will reacting emotionally really benefit me? It's not always easy to do but I think if we can learn not to take things personally we'll be much better off. It's learning that it's not about you, it's about them. Jonathan Meads last blog post..<a href="http://jonathanmead.com/2008/05/18/the-cult-of-productivity-the-art-of-purposeless-living/" rel="nofollow">The Cult of Productivity & the Art of Purposeless Living</a> I think one of the hardest parts of working with others is learning not to react emotionally. We need to stop and think, what do I want to accomplish with this person? Will reacting emotionally really benefit me?

It’s not always easy to do but I think if we can learn not to take things personally we’ll be much better off. It’s learning that it’s not about you, it’s about them.

Jonathan Meads last blog post..The Cult of Productivity & the Art of Purposeless Living

]]> By: Robert A. Henru http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-740 Robert A. Henru Thu, 22 May 2008 07:44:03 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-740 Hi Jemi, I like your last statement... be the reason someone came to work, how true it is... we can make a difference, at least our environment a little bit better... one of the responsibility we can have on our side. My previous working place was the worst. The turnover rate is 150% within 6 months, basically we can't trust the boss, he is too deceptive, even trick his own staffs. I really do not know what is in his mind, he can't appreciate his staffs well. I'm quitting only within 6 months, and really thankful for that. I read the following post, actually from my experience with that boss <a href="http://www.reason4smile.com/2007/11/14/lessons-of-difficult-people/" rel="nofollow">Lessons of difficult people</a> It's a very short article, hope you enjoy it. Cheers, Robert Hi Jemi,
I like your last statement… be the reason someone came to work, how true it is… we can make a difference, at least our environment a little bit better… one of the responsibility we can have on our side.

My previous working place was the worst. The turnover rate is 150% within 6 months, basically we can’t trust the boss, he is too deceptive, even trick his own staffs. I really do not know what is in his mind, he can’t appreciate his staffs well. I’m quitting only within 6 months, and really thankful for that. I read the following post, actually from my experience with that boss

Lessons of difficult people

It’s a very short article, hope you enjoy it.
Cheers,
Robert

]]> By: J http://www.inmyheels.com/how-to-work-amongst-difficult-people/#comment-739 J Thu, 22 May 2008 04:40:35 +0000 http://www.inmyheels.com/?p=280#comment-739 GREAT POST! I really like the first part about taking credit for yourself in professional ways. I also love the relationships part - very true. GREAT POST!

I really like the first part about taking credit for yourself in professional ways. I also love the relationships part - very true.

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