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So about those strides to great success? There’s definitely more. Make it your business to grab these keys and hold on to them for dear life. Not only will they open the doors you know you need opened, they will unlock so much of that potential you didn’t even know you had!
Clean Up the Messes In Your Life
Messes in our lives mercilessly hold us back. Think about it. When your mind is preoccupied with the physical clutter in your home/workspace/hidden in your closet, you can’t focus on the things that matter to you. It’s as though mental clutter develops and it isn’t pleasant. There are also emotional messes such as resentment, strong bouts of self doubt, anger, and living in a negative past. You need some room for the positive thoughts that are going to propel you into your actualized dream. The problem tends to be, regardless of what type of mess you have, its just so much work to clean up! It can be discouraging when you’re looking at heaps of issues whether they come in large piles of junk mail or negative self talk you’ve had on autopilot for years.
There is such good news available to you with the decision to clean up your life. One small goal at a time is a) excellent opportunities for positive reinforcement every time you complete them, b) bigger steps out of your troubles in the meantime, and c) as possible as you allow it to be.
Attack your messes thinking from the end. You are not going to do something about the clutter. You ARE doing something about it. You are not going to be a victim of hoarding physical things anymore (which tends to perfectly reflect where your mind is!). You’re making room now. So this is what you do.
I read a tip from Jack Canfield’s book - The Success Principles - that I loved. I believe he borrowed it himself and it’s too good not to share with you. Create an Irritation List. An Irritation List is simply a list of things that just bother you to no end. You list any and every little thing. You walk throughout your home and write down every little thing that just bothers you and you’ve been putting off for ages. That doorknob needs to be fixed? Write it down. You can’t STAND that stain on your wall? Write it down. The closet is a disaster - that’s why you avoid it? Write it down. Then, choose a weekend (or a time appropriate for you) to tackle everything on that list. You’d be amazed how much better you feel about moving forward because you took care of things that simply bother you. This action is an action of great power. You are creating an environment that you love. You’re taking your life back. Clean up your messes and enjoy a new freedom.
Great Minds Think Alike: Surround Yourself With Great Minds!
There is nothing like momentum built, sustained, and exponentially growing between people with like minds. When you are feeling discouraged, dealing with a tough problem, tired, procrastinating, you name it- having a team of people like you in your corner is an indispensable advantage. Like Minds doesn’t necessarily mean they have to be in the same industry as you. Like Minds meaning these are people who are also chasing great success. These are people who also want big things! These are people who are EXCELLENT for your network. Together, you tackle issues and talk about the dreams and action plans you create. Gather a special group of individuals to meet on a consistent basis (once a week, month, whatever works for you). Everyone gets a turn to speak and everyone gives 100% in this group. As a group, you are helping each other realize your dreams. As a group or team, you keep each other accountable. What’s that? Didn’t you say you were going to call the head of SuperWoman Corp. and ask for an interview for that article? That’s right - you tell your team or partner your action plans for this week and come back with a report as to what happened. A string of actions = continuous progress! So go snag yourself a power team and help each other rise to the top. Be amazed at the contagious nature of motivation and keep that fire going.
Never Get to A Point Where You Stop Learning or Growing
To be the very best, you’re going to have to keep up with the times and keep up with your own personal growth. Never ever get to a point when you’re ’such a genius’ that you make no room for progress. You can always afford to learn something. This is how you stay ahead and this is how you keep your mind stimulated. You’re not going to hide from challenges such as new advances in technology in your field because it looks difficult. You’re not going to become obsolete because you refuse to learn. It’s ok to be new and start from the top again and again. You are about constant growth, change, and relevance. You are successful because you can adapt.
Also, be respectful of people at all levels. It’s not only about people who can apparently do things for you because they are ahead of you. You can learn from all types of people - you’d be amazed. Academia has it’s limitations. In this real world outside of a text book, the school of life is just as relevant if not more - to your success. Keep that human barometer calibrated at Sensitive to People and Their Needs. You’ll grow for it and so will your success.
Appreciate the People Around You
You express a great gratitude to the people who help you in even the smallest of ways with continuous acknowledgment in your apparent appreciation for them. The spouse who put up with your endless hours, the friend who let you cry and retell your tales of misfortune over..and over again, the janitor who waved at you with a smile even when you felt invisible - they all count. So what can you do for them? Never forget that critical question that is supposed to stimulate you to remain engaged with the people in your life. When you build your character in this way, you will find yourself enjoying the fruit of a holistic success. Success is empty when you’re all alone. Develop connections that are much deeper than “What’s-Her-Face-in-the-Mail-Room”. KNOW her real name (Jan). Find out how you can give back. Not only will people appreciate you back, they will help you in ways you might have never even thought of. You never know who knows who. You never know when you’re going to need a helping hand from an unlikely source. You don’t burn bridges - you build them and maintain their strength.
Give Back With a Happy Heart
When you are in a position to help others, do so! Be a blessing to others on a regular basis. Think back to that once in a lifetime opportunity that helped you get to where you are because someone out there believed in you or made a great opportunity available to you! You make a lot of room for wonderful things to happen to you when you make wonderful things happen for others. Life is funny like that. You’ll feel so good about yourself and about the life you live when you contribute to the well being of others in a way that success alone can’t give you. This tip is critical for your success at life. Success is more than climbing the ladder of socio-economic status. It’s more than a new title and awesome new heels. Success is living a life that you dreamed up and that is abundant with a satisfaction of self - full of love and actualized purpose. When you give, you sow the seeds of love - anonymous or not. You will reap what you sow. Know this.
The exponential benefits that come with wielding these keys are undeniable. Share them with others. Apply them to your life. Know them, remember them, live them and enjoy those big dreams of yours!
Here’s to your big dreams and great success!
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Loads of positive messages here, JEMi.
I always find that having a trusted group of people around can really make the difference in encouraging a successful attitude. Not only do they give us the confidence to try something as we can rely on their support, but they also challenge us when we DON’T try.
It is good to be held to account when we feel like settling for second best.
I totally agree with your tip about appreciating those around you. At work, I made a point of knowing the first name of everyone I had dealings with.
I made time to chat with all level of colleague- be they manager, receptionist, or mailroom assistant. On many occasions, I was able to call on their help simply because I had treated them with respect.
It’s easy to ignore the “humble” mailroom assistant as they do their rounds- after all, everyone else does. However, a few words everyday shows respect and can create a positive impression.
There’s a saying that we should be nice to people on our way up, as we might just need their help on the way back down. Appreciating others costs very little, but can make a huge difference- for both parties.
Points #1 and two are so VERY TRUE! Cleaning my work area really does help my thinking. Surrounding with other like minds helps a great great deal. It keeps the positive energy flowing. Thanks JEMi.
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“Never ever get to a point when you’re ’such a genius’ that you make no room for progress. You can always afford to learn something.”
YES, YES, YES!
I couldn’t agree more and especially as someone who is older and wiser (??)…. it’s one of the best ways to stay young (which remonds me of another great post you wrote!).
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“It’s ok to be new and start from the top again and again.” That is a big part of being successful. A lot of us young folks are already afraid to start over and lose what little ground we’ve gained, but it’s never too late.
Your positive message here rocks. I think your final point and paragraphs are the most powerful. You reap what you sow–eventually. That’s one thing that’s really cool about any kind of social media; it teaches you that lesson in a very tangible way. The true benefits come when, like you suggest, you apply that philosophy to all areas of life.
Part 2 was worth waiting for!
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You did it AGAIN, smiling JEMi,
As someone older and wiser (??) than Vered, I totally agree, never stop learning. Be brave and push yourself to limits you never thought were possible. That also ties into your “be respectful of people at all levels ( and ages). Over the years I have learned SO much from those who came before me. There was wisdom in their years.
Giving back with a happy heart is another great “plus” in life. If we can learn it’s better to give than to receive, we also learn the rewards of giving far outweigh what we may have sacrificed.
This, and your previous post, sound like the makings for a fantastic ebook. The information is so valuable it should be made available for the masses and not just the readers of your blog.
JEMi, you rock!
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I love point #3. There’s always someone who knows more than us. We should never get to a point where we are satisfied with what we know, because we can never learn too much.
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I couldn’t agree more with your view. I often feel the same way. Actually I sometimes discuss this topic with my friends, so it’s nice to see other people also talking openly about it.
Messes in life do hold us back for sure, as does perfection JEMi. I work with a perfectionist who keeps the messiest office because she’s so busy making sure that everything is just perfect by double checking that her work has become a huge pile of clutter. She can’t throw anything away because she has to make sure that’s its okay to do so, so it just sits there.
Some people just aren’t organized and it really is a reflection of their life, IMHO.